Post-IEP Discussion.. — 5 Minutes for Special Needs


Wednesday was Jack’s IEP.

Let me give you a little back story here. Jack’s “teacher” is a special education professional, who routinely wears fake hair and loud (loud isn’t the best adjective, but that’s all I can come up with) jumpers/sweaters. We refer to her as The General, because, quite frankly, that’s how she acts. Things go her way or no way. So, you know about how well that works with special needs kids, right?


Anyway, The General had a death in her family and couldn’t make the IEP, so she sent her underling. Sitting in my living room, we had the SLP, the Underling, and us. We discussed Jack’s strengths and weaknesses. We discussed my concerns.

We are getting an assistive technology evaluation (yippee!). They are also sending out an occupational therapist to see us. Although, we were told they won’t do therapy at the house (so, like, what’s the point?).

They then began to admonish us for not putting Jack in school. They acknowledge that there are major health concerns (oh, you know, what’s wrong with subjecting him to death for the sake of school?), but they want him to enter the Medically Fragile Classroom. This classroom is located approximately 47 minutes from my house. I asked about the home bound program, and they said that it would probably be difficult to have the doctor write a note to allow that (really? The kid is on palliative care, I’m pretty sure that’s not a problem!).

It just was.

It wasn’t great. It wasn’t terrible. It just was. I utilized my gift of humility and grace, while still using my educated, non-aggressive words to get my points across. It worked well. It’s over.

Now, on to bigger and better things!

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1 Kate J October 7, 2011 at 8:48 pm

I think they must be bluffing on the no in-home OT and the “difficulty” of getting a doctor to sign off on homebound services. It is so ridiculous, that it would concern me that they even tried to bluff you. I often wonder if, in my own school district, they have secret meetings where they instruct the IEP team members to not, under any circumstances, ever, ever offer a more costly service, or even hint that such a thing might be available. This is where parent-to-parent connection is so invaluable.

2 Heather P October 8, 2011 at 5:53 pm

You’re so right Kate! I think that there must be a secret sound-proof door…behind which all the secrets of the universe are revealed. Like, how we scare parents to go with the flow instead of asking intelligent, useful questions… 😉

3 staying afloat October 9, 2011 at 2:01 pm

I believe this is actually true.

In my district, we found out that the state basically told them they had to slash the budget in any way possible, and not to spend anything extra. No out of district placements or 1:1’s unless it helps them avoid a bigger expense.

The chief example of that whole ‘avoid a bigger expense’ thing? Lawsuit. Better to give you what you want than risk bad publicity or have it on legal record and have others know they can ask for it.

I wish you continued strength.

4 Heather P October 9, 2011 at 2:48 pm

Thank you! And I bet you are dead on right… so sad. We claim to want to give the children such a great education, but I guess that only counts for the kids that are “typical?”


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