A Homework Miracle At The Kitchen Table — 5 Minutes for Special Needs

A Homework Miracle At The Kitchen Table

by Laurie


She looked up at me, wrapped tight in the blanket that was holding her together. Thirty minutes she’d been yelling at math problems on crumpled paper in front of her. Pencils strewn around, nerves frazzled. Now she sat quiet. Smiling with those big brown tear-soaked eyes. Oh, she was so proud of her work! She finally got it – this long-division beast!

But even more amazing (as you can imagine if you saw my last homework post!) was HOW she got it.

Since her learning disabilities relate to auditory processing and mood, it often seems the moons and stars have to align perfectly for us to have a shot at explaining a math concept or vocabulary word without the interaction ending in a giant meltdown. We’ve learned to write whatever directions she needs to understand. That’s in her IEP accommodations for teachers to help her too. It’s been like having a child who’s deaf whenever problems arose with homework: all interactions via notes and hand gestures.

Today, for the first time I can ever remember, despite loud protest, crying, and needing to wrap in a blanket to calm down…. she was able to LISTEN to my explanation and DO what we talked about. Without the meltdown. Without forgetting what I said 2 seconds before.

She listened, heard, wrote… understood.

I’ve spent 5 years helping this little girl and never one day has it been easy. Today, even if it’s just an anomaly, has breathed hope into me. Hope for her ability to learn and relate to others. Hope for her mind to heal and grow. Hope for her future.

And hope is a very, very good thing!

How’s homework going for your child lately? Any wins?

– Laurie

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I'm a wife and mom of four girls - two with bipolar, ADHD and developmental delays. It's a daily journey to live this life well and help my girls do the same. As a speaker and life coach, I'm committed to helping other parents thrive in this wild ride too!

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1 Marie January 10, 2012 at 10:15 am

What a marvelous moment for both of you!

2 Jo January 10, 2012 at 2:14 pm

Thanks for sharing. Hope is the most important thing!!!
Your post is about progress!!! Enjoy this moment.
well done to you and to her…
Our big milestone is yesterday my little boy wrote in his new writing book in school( this is the first proper book) by himself…Huge when before the summer he was only just scribbling and that was reluctantly…

3 Laurie January 10, 2012 at 4:57 pm

That’s wonderful news, Jo. You’ve got to be so proud of him. He’s got to be proud too! These successes are so very sweet on the long road to growth!

4 Jennifer January 10, 2012 at 10:37 pm

Beautiful! I love it when those moments finally come! We’re seeing progress here too. It’s slow, but we’re moving forward!

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