Learning to say “NO!” — 5 Minutes for Special Needs

Learning to say “NO!”

by Heather P


I have a problem.

I have chronic I-don’t-want-to-make-waves syndrome.

I don’t say no.

We live in Orlando. Orlando, the place where 30 bazillion vacationers come each year to pay homage to the Mouse, watch of a giant whale who can do flips, and visit the wizarding world that J.K. Rowling built.

So, once a month or so, we hear from friends and family who just happen to be popping in to town for a week of non-stop action. They want to squeeze in a quick visit or have a bite to eat. A lot of times, I’ve just said, “OK, what day is good for you” without a second thought, because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Or maybe I don’t want to be perceived as a hermit?

The thing is, we are.

It’s about October time. October traditionally is the end of fun. The Lysol gets placed at all entrances, the hand sanitizer is a constant companion…sickness season begins. We try to keep as many germs away as we can.

I can’t say no.

I will, though.

I’m learning. I’m quietly changing my heart. I’m learning that saying “no” does not mean that I’m a bad person, or that I don’t love my friends and family. It means, that I can’t do things the way society wants me to. And that’s OK.

It’s a work in progress…


Do you say no? (if you do, teach me!)

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Heather is a mom of two, wife, and nurse educator doing what she can to save the day! She lives in Orlando where she is routinely spotted driving while singing ABBA--all on a mission to advocate and educate!

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1 Jo September 28, 2012 at 2:52 pm

Perhaps we can learn together.

2 Heather P September 28, 2012 at 5:22 pm

I’ll hold your hand if you hold mine…

3 Janet September 28, 2012 at 9:06 pm

I haven’t had a hard time learning to say no because I usually have a very good excuse. I do have a hard time saying no without one.

Now if you want to talk about the ability to ask for help … 😉

4 Maggie Mae September 29, 2012 at 10:49 pm

So when I come to pay homage to the mouse in October I won’t call you LOL! I’m in the same boat with not saying no… though not so much for illness reasons, mostly just way too busy trying to get life done during waking hours. I’m the 6th grade fundraising chairperson and my house is crumbling around me b/c I can’t keep up. When you find the secret to saying no, do share.

5 Charity October 1, 2012 at 8:21 am

It is very difficult to say no, but you can do it! I learned to do it having a child with a compromised immune system, she became my priority and it became easier to say no.

6 Jill Robson October 6, 2012 at 11:58 am

As my favourite character on Tv right now Sheldon Cooper would say “That doesn’t work for me”. Something i am trying to take to heart. Good luck.

7 Joelle October 15, 2012 at 3:26 pm

I loved your article and I know how you feel. I have been there…and still not totally cured but I am getting better:-)

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