While uploading photos from the boys digital camera, I found several video clips they had recorded. Yeah, fun stuff. This one is no exception…recorded by Lee, my son who lives with severe ADHD under the umbrella diagnosis of fetal alcohol syndrome…
“Wheeeee…again, again, again. Wheeeee…again, again, again.”
I laughed because not only does it provide a perfect visual definition of his ADHD world, but it pretty much nails our family’s world. A whirlwind.
But then my laughter stopped, and I cried.
This is how my child experiences the world…every day…every moment…and he cannot control it. My patience with him fails daily, sometimes several times a day, over behaviors of which he has no control.
Why do I seem to forget that he struggles? Why do I lose patience with this child? Because as difficult as ADHD is for him, it is also difficult for me, and I am human. So we’ve learned to forgive one another…and move forward.
It’s the only way.
Understanding and forgiveness…and a heavy dose of laughter.
Understand that you are not perfect…no one expects you to be…and forgive yourself.
Otherwise, you lose your sanity…
…and miss the opportunity to laugh out loud together over a silly video.
Melody can be found writing here at 5MFSN every Tuesday in addition to hosting Special Exposure Wednesday. You will also find her at Slurping Life sharing photos and a few words from her special life.