Questions that hurt, comments that help

You’re sitting there minding your own business when BAM, some friend, relative or stranger asks you a question about your child that levels you. These questions would not be in the “well meaning” category.

8 most annoying questions I’ve been asked about Matthew.


1)      Will he ever live on his own?

2)      Don’t you feel guilty?

3)      What will happen to him when you die?

4)      I hear they can be cured. Have you read Jenny McCarthy’s book?

5)      Don’t you feel lucky that you have two other children that are normal?

6)      He is so handsome. What a waste.

7)      Will he ever get married and have children?

8)      Will he grow out of it?

Luckily, there are the nice comments, too. They don’t come as often but they are unforgettable.


8 of the nicest things people have said about Matthew

1)      He had a great day today. I love having him in my class.

2)      That kid has the most beautiful smile.

3)       Matthew had a rough day today, but he wasn’t the only one.

4)      I used to wonder what it would be like if he didn’t have autism, but now, I can’t imagine him any other way.

5)      When can Matthew come for a visit? I miss him so much.

6)      He is so handsome. And what a great sense of humor!

7)      You must be so proud of him.

8)      Matthew does such great work. When can he work in my garden again?

Please share with me your bad news good news comments and questions!


Laura Shumaker is the author of A REGULAR GUY: GROWING UP WITH AUTISM

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