Halloween is approaching, a celebration with which I have a real love/hate relationship. I have never liked celebrating spooky, evil spirits, and I don’t like having kids ‘beg’ candy from strangers. I do, however, like the dressing in costumes, and especially enjoy the creativity as the costumes get better and better each year.
My kids always dressed in costume for Halloween when they were younger, but I wouldn’t allow evil or scary costumes. And, instead of trick or treating door to door, we would always go to the Harvest Festival held at church. But today I started wondering if I could choose a costume for some of the significant people in my daughter, Ashley’s life, what would those costumes be?
My 17 year old son, Chip, would dress as a coach. He has spent his life coaching his dear sister, Ashley. He was the one who taught her to burp like a boy, ‘moon’ people, eat Cheetos, and make zerberts on his tummy. He draws out the best in Ashley, and is by her side whenever she needs a hug or a kiss. He encourages her to do the things others would say she can’t do. He is her big brother and her life coach!
Alex, Ashley’s speech therapist, would be a cheerleader in a bright uniform waving her pom poms to celebrate Ashley’s every success. There is no reward better for Ashley than praise and acknowledgement of her unique abilities. Alex recognized that from the first moment she began working with Ashley, and as a result, their relationship is rooted in mutual love and respect.
Jonathan, the attorney who has fought many battles to ensure Ashley’s rights are respected, would be costumed as a knight. In my mind’s eye, he is always riding fiercely into battle on his mighty steed, ready to do whatever he must to win the rights of the fair Ashley. He is strong and committed with a heart full of compassion. Justice is his code of chivalry, and knowledge is his weapon.
I’ll leave to your imagination the group of people who would costumed as evil gnomes though anyone with a child receiving special education services from their school district would probably not have to imagine long.
And as for me, I think I will dress up as a very tired but extremely happy mother!
Deborah can be found writing here at 5MFSN every Sunday and Wednesday, and can also be found at Pipecleaner Dreams.