In my quest for “Me” time, Adam’s sister came to visit us this week. Before she arrived, I had asked if she would babysit for us. You see, Adam and I haven’t been out together since April of 2009. We used to have a regular babysitter who then moved and now I somehow lost a friend in the process. But, that’s a post for another day.
My sister in law arrived last Tuesday and we have been trying to figure out a day that Adam and I could go out. We decided that we’d see Adam (and Sara’s) grandparents on Saturday and then after Sara and I shopped in the afternoon. (Sometimes retail therapy is awesome. Except for Sunday, we didn’t have much luck) Unfortunately, I started having a Rheumatoid Arthritis flare when I woke up on Saturday Morning. (oh. I don’t think I’ve mentioned that here yet… I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis in October of 2010.) I wasn’t sure if I would WANT to go out not to mention feeling well enough to go out. I asked Adam if he still wanted to go out and he said he did. Score one for us!
The only downside to this story is that since we don’t have a regular babysitter, the girls haven’t been left with too many people over the past few years. They both started to cry as we left. Immediately, I of course felt guilty. My wonderful sister in law told us to go and they would be fine. And they were.
I do wish we could find someone to babysit the girls more often. It was fun to just go out together, we talked about the kids, but only minimally. When we first moved to Toronto and then having Jillian, we never had a chance to find a sitter. I always felt that I would be a basket case if I ever found someone to watch the girls. Since Jillian had blue spells, I would worry that it would happen when we weren’t there. I think now that Jillian is 2.5 and is much less medically fragile, we should aim to make time for Adam and I.
So? Do you get to go on dates with your spouse regularly??