It’s that time of year again! I am making resolutions, as I always do. I try to make my resolutions small and manageable. One year, I stopped buying magazines for 12 months. I had plenty passed along to me and I borrowed them from the library. The good news is that I accomplished my goal…
Category Archives: Dealing With Public Perceptions
Resolution: Don’t Give Your Power to Others
Like Santa, I know my children! I see them when they’re sleeping. I know when they’re awake. I know when they’ve been bad or good and I teach them to be good for goodness sake! So why… WHY, when a nasty, mean-spirited coward rolls down her car window as we exit the store where my children behaved…
What You SHOULD say to a Special Needs Family
To follow up on last week’s post of what NOT to say to a Special Needs Family, I polled some folks to find out what you SHOULD say. You know, stuff that would be nice to hear? And this is what my special friends told me: What can I do to help? If you don’t…
Where Did our Friends Go?
For us, one of the most surprising and disappointing aspects of parenting a special needs child was the loss of our friends. It seems strange that when you need them the most, they are nowhere to be found. Where did they go … and why?
Peace in the Wee Hours
Ah, the wee hours of the morning, when the sun and my children are still asleep — where they stir quietly, smiling in their sleep… dreaming of sailing the high seas on their new pirate ship… in another world — there is resounding peace here in my world. Everything is as it should be. No one is judging us. No one…
Tis the season…
When we’re at the store, my son and I, I wonder what people think. Sometimes they tell you exactly what they think, ready or not here it comes. It’s apparent that my son has a physical disability, the wheelchair is a clear give away, but sometimes we don’t heave and hoe that into the vehicle….
Top Ten Things I am a Little Tired of Hearing
I wish I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard the following ten statements. Because I’d be a rich, rich woman indeed and there’d be no scrounging to get therapy stuff for my kid. Ahem. Without further ado: G-d doesn’t give you more than you can handle. Look, I understand the intent. I really…
Going to the Movies
Traditionally on extended holiday breaks, one (or both) of the grandmas suggest taking the kids to a movie. It is one of those activities that makes me cringe inside because I’m never quite sure how Will is going to behave once we get there. Sometimes I opt out all together or just send the girls….
Managing Expectations to Foster Acceptance
There’s this concept out here in special-needs-land that we parents have to mourn the loss of the typical child we were expecting before we can accept the child with special needs that we were gifted. Personally, I’m not sure I buy that! I didn’t mourn. I embraced instantaneously. And, I did so, I think, because so…
Maybe it’s Just Me
Maybe it’s just me, but I think sensory toys look a little too much like adult entertainment toys. If you know what I mean. And sometimes, your kid might find the spot where those things are hidden, a spot in the house you never dreamed he’d find, and play with the adult toys. Because they…